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    以習俗來說，在西方國家，成年男女正常交往直到論及婚嫁時，男性才會把女友帶回家去見父母（尤其是母親）。因西方親子關係的「獨立性」、「自主性」與「尊重性」比東方民族強，較屬於「知會性」、「禮貌性」及「接納性」的程序完成。西方的家庭文化幾乎都以獨立小家庭為主流，加上成年子女很少與父母同住，因此婆媳問題雖也存在，但不至於釀成什麼婚姻的大悲劇。

     然而，在東方某些國情卻不太一樣，家庭觀念較重固然是文化的影響，但父母與子女間的親情關係通常是處在彼此雖深愛對方，卻又經常陷入依賴性—抓著不敢放，放了又不放心，是一種既不乾脆又囉嗦的混淆心態。

這導致不少東方國度裡的兩性關係尚未談到婚姻，只將戀愛對象曝光，家族成員的紛紛介入，便足以影響雙方當事人對愛情本質的判斷了。而其中又以未來婆婆的角色最具權威，也最有影響力，因為你們未來從婚事的承諾、婚禮的過程，以及未來婚姻的經營，她將是不會缺席的要角；至於未來的另一半和公公，反而往往都只是演啞劇或配角的合作對象罷了。

因此當未來的婆婆在批評她自己的兒子時，妳必須要懂得察言觀色。到底這位長輩是客套的謙虛？還是真心地提示妳要注意？亦或是想從妳口中得知她所不了解的兒子的另一面？也可能她只是心血來潮，隨便想到哪裡說到哪裡罷了，但也有可能她是在故意試探，好讓妳知難而退。

總之，不論其動機何在，重要的是妳的態度，以下內容提供妳面對婚姻應有的心態和視角。

一、能用一顆單純的心，來面對婚姻生活中多元化的人際關係。所謂「日久見人心」、「真的假不了，假的真不了」，不要尚未踏進婆家，卻因無心、疏忽或刻意，而把人際關係的互動複雜或扭曲了。

二、要面帶笑容、專注的聆聽。這樣是最易令人卸下心房的溝通態度，因為妳重視她存在的價值。

三、「心存感激」要像刺青般地常烙印在心中。能適時對未來婆婆表達感謝，感謝她為妳生了一位值得讓妳攜手共度一生的另一半；每位母親在養兒育女的過程中都有一部不足以為外人道的辛酸史，雖說父母親對子女的奉獻犧牲往往不求回饋，但若能從一個外人口中獲得肯定，終究也是種難得的感動，何況這也是事實，不是嗎？

Self Awareness by the people,

A Plebiscite for Taiwan’s sovereignty!

                                   A country’s development is dependent on its people’s participation and involvement;

                                  the progress of its communities relies on all of its residents’ accumulated knowledge and experience.

                                  Adhering to one’s philosophy and principles is the only way to realize one’s vision, goals and ideals.

 A.On New National Status

a.Form a “New Constitution Commission” to draw up a “Taiwan New Constitution.”

b.Hold an internationally-supervised plebiscite of all inhabitants in Taiwan and to advocate the values, positions and sovereignty of the Taiwanese people to international community.

 Why I Am Joining the Presidential Race

   Taiwan is my home country and motherland, a beautiful island also known as Formosa. Just as a pearl found from the ocean goes through a process to become a precious, sought-after entity - Taiwan was created, cultivated, and developed from a simple island to a place with its own government, and citizens with sovereign rights.

The Taiwanese people’s history is marked with painful struggles, filled with tears and stained with blood. For as long as one can remember, a strong divide has existed amongst the people, sadly becoming one of the country’s most defining characteristics, and greatly hindering much of its development and potential. Furthermore, despite Taiwan’s current population of over 23 million, we have yet to break down the barriers that are keeping us from being a part of the United Nations. This situation in Taiwan is very rare, and as more and more Taiwanese people hold dual citizenships, one has to wonder if they have truly lost confidence in Taiwan’s future. 

In this election, those that take the stand for Taiwan to unite with China are not taking decisive actions to become actual citizens of the People’s Republic of China. Similarly, those that advocate for Taiwan independence have the opportunity to build an independent country through peaceful revolution, but their much-needed solidarity is lost in the mix of ruling parties and electoral campaigns. As for the rest, they choose to remain silent as they escape the harsh reality of Taiwan’s current situation, holding on to an unrealistic belief that China’s Communist rule will somehow, someday, undergo a democratic reform.

In the last half century, apart from focusing on taking control of Taiwan, Communist China has not taken any steps to understand the needs of the Taiwanese people. And since when did the Taiwanese pay taxes to, or pledge their allegiance, to the People’s Republic of China? Let us not forget the “823 Artillery Battle,” in which China attacked Kinmen and Matzu on August 23^rd, 1958, leaving 440 Taiwanese soldiers dead or missing. Enmity can fade into a distant memory, but we should never forget or take for granted the lessons we learn from our own history. In our vast and glorious world, China is but Taiwan’s neighbor and not a part of our country; we can treat China as our friend, but we should never allow our own citizens’ sovereign rights to be violated.

Litterateurs write, “Home is where you are used to living,” and Taiwan can only rely on its people’s courage and determination to love their country, in order to avoid becoming a country without international recognition.  

        As the Chinese Civil War ended and the Kuomintang (KMT) retreated to Taiwan in 1949, China declared the One-China Principle, established the PRC, “People’s Republic of China,” and joined the United Nations, thus denying the existence of the “Republic of China,” or ROC. In Chinese history, the KMT is regarded as a rebel party that refused to fight the Japanese, swept the Palace Museum of its treasures, and took refuge in Taiwan. Meanwhile, The Democratic Progressive Party (DPP) is seen as a chaotic local political party in Taiwan. The fact remains that only by building a new, independent Taiwan, will the KMT know the value of their historical existence – and it is the only way to unite the people of Taiwan and bring them closer to a long-awaited democratic milestone.

The Chinese love their country, not their ruling party. Why is it that the Taiwanese choose to love their political parties instead of their own country? Wake up Taiwan, and rise to the challenge! Taiwan should be its own independent country, and we should fight for the right that we have already earned to begin with – to love a country that we can call our own.

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                                         詞:黃越綏    

曲:古  林

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